Do what you love, even in small ways, and with time, the rewards will overflow. The biggest reward though, is your peace and contentment. It sure beats the alternative: stressed, frustrated, possibly even broke, falling over backwards to do things that aren’t for you, and aren’t you.
Happy #IWD2017 darlings!!!
International Women’s Day has its roots based in the early 1900’s Socialist American Party. Over a century later, the movement has sparked and spread throughout the world, championing the causes of women everywhere, from every sphere of life.
In far too many societies, although some aspects of daily life are evolving, the standing of women young or old has, sadly, not been improved. Mothers, wives, sisters, female cousins, female co-workers are still viewed as weak, helpless and incapable.
As such, in many societies, these women are often at the mercy of violent men or abusive superiors. They are also at the mercy of the people around them who may turn a blind eye to their situation. To the people who look away, turn away, walk away saying, “That’s none of my business” or “She probably deserved it” or ‘What am I supposed to do?” I ask you, what if it were you?
Would you want someone to reach out, stand up and be bold enough to help you? Then put yourself in her shoes. Imagine yourself in the position of a woman who is being harassed, abused whether verbally or physically, unfairly treated, spoken to, or compensated.
It takes courage and boldness to stand up for her.
Be bold enough to put yourself #InHerShoes and #BeBoldForChange against violence, bias and inequalities.
Watch my video for more, and comment “Yes I will be bold for change” to commit today to being bold against the biases, violence, abuse and injustice against women.
I don’t remember the last time I watched television. I’m a YouTube gal through and through. Why? The options are endless to choose content that fits my life and lifestyle, and the people I watch on YouTube are so much more relatable than the actors and actresses on movies and tv series.
One of my favourite people to watch on YouTube is British beauty, fashion and lifestyle YouTuber Patricia Bright. Not only is she totally gorgeous, but she’s also genuine, friendly and overall has a great personality.
One of her latest videos was entitled ‘Grown Woman Truths I Wish I Knew Before & Birthday Video’. In the first part of the video she dished about several life truths she’d learned in years past, as she’s gotten older and wiser. As she delved into each one, I found myself nodding every other second in agreement with the things she’d learnt, and thinking to myself “Yes!”, “That’s so true!”. Feeling uber-inspired and excited, I thought I’d do one of a list of truths I’d learnt as well! (Thanks Patricia!)
In the video I explain in (much more, juicy) detail, but here is the ‘cliff-notes’ version of the life truths, and some of them really harsh truths, that I have learnt:
Here’s a link to Patricia’s video as well:
Let’s chat below! What truths have you learnt lately, or over time?
Ask me what’s one thing I absolutely cannot live without (no, seriously, you can ask me), and I would probably give you a list. It’s impossible for me to name just one.
But somewhere high up on that list, quite possibly in the running for first place along with some other absolute-essential (like, say, coffee) would be paper.
Yep, paper. It’s how my love for reading and writing grew, after all. Over the years, in am effort to make sense of the chaos that can (sometimes) be everyday life (i.e. in an effort to succeed at ‘adulting’, as the young’ns call it), a yearly planner has become my best friend.
The perks, I’ve found, of using a planner have been:
- I’m able to plan (*hides face* yes, I know, it’s a given) What’s that quote about failing to prepare?
- I get to pace myself and by extension, my thoughts. Breaking up a huge task or goal into small bite-sized pieces over several days is much easier than not doing so. We don’t want to bite off more than we can chew, after all.
- I’m more likely to actually do the things I’d planned. While there may not necessarily be any scientific backing behind this, I’ve found over the years that when I write down and allocating a date for something specific, whether I want to or not, I actually get them done (ahem, hello mopping). Something about seeing those words written down, just pushes me to get up and get it all done.
- I’m inadvertently holding myself accountable. At the end of each week, I’m able to look back at all the plans I’d had and ensure that even if the day got away with me on Wednesday, I can do that day’s tasks on Friday. After all, I wrote them down, and I feel a tinge of guilt whenever I plan to get things done, then don’t.
There are so many cute monthly and yearly planners for the choosing! Nothing like a glam and gorgeous book to inspire you to be more organised. Here are some pretty options, fit for any budget:
These planner covers are adorable! And most of them tend to come with planner accessories, especially stickers, that allow you to decorate your weekly or daily spread.
Do you own a planner? Thinking about getting one? What’s your favourite thing about planning?
I thought it would be fun to do a tag video on YouTube. When I watch just one of these, I fall down a rabbit hole and end up watching dozens; love ’em! So much fun! It’s such a fun way to get to know people.
Check out mine below.
Disclaimer (of sorts): I considered writing this in my journal, aka away from public eyes, for about 5 minutes. Then I was reminded why I’m blogging in the first place.
To share what I think someone needs to hear. The things I needed to hear at some point or another.
The biggest reality check hit me this Friday morning, the third day since launching the blog/YouTube channel & other social media pages. It hit me that I had to start slow with this entire project.
I’m an only child of two parents I love dearly. Being their only child & their daughter, all eyes being on me does come with some perks. One of them being that I tend to get things when I want them, and I usually
need want them immediately. When adulthood called though, it said very sternly that I could no longer expect everything to happen how I wanted it, and when I wanted it.
Today, adulthood shot me a quick text to remind me of this. Like I said, it’s the third day since I launched everything. And already, I’m doing this thing where I compare myself, and my accomplishments (or lack thereof) to others. Comparing the Sahara-like dryness of my comments section to others’ where conversation is thriving.
Whether I like it or not, I can’t and won’t be an overnight success. Which begs the question what, for me, is success. Another story for another day.
Spending the rest of my Friday steadily pacing myself, and along with that, my thoughts, words, and future content. I want to get to that place where I’m okay with, and truly enjoying, starting small.
At first glance (or first click, rather) of my blog, you might question why so far I’ve been talking about mostly negative topics or issues.
Why, you ask? I felt that self-doubt would be a good follow-up topic to my first. It was, for me, one of the ill-effects of being bullied.
After my first secondary school ‘experience’ with a bully, I went into solution mode. I’m a solutions gal. Thinking
I was, I had to be, the problem in the first place, a remedy was the first thing on the to-do list. My logic was that something everything was wrong with me, so I went about changing everything I possibly could.
Let me explain:
I dropped the ‘me’ I’d always known and loved, like a hot ptoato, and picked up a new version that I felt would make me liked, or at the very least, not hated and not attacked.
It took me years to realise that I had grown to hate myself in almost a similar fashion to the mean girls at my high school.
A realisation that I’m proud of, actually. It’s only when you notice you’re going down a dead-end road that you can reverse and journey towards your original destination. I had to embrace that everything was alright, even while surrounded by people who thought everything was wrong with me.
Can I be brutally honest for a second? I’ve written, and re-written, and re-written this, my first blog post, about five times. Wrestling (as my mind does oh so well) with the idea of posting about a topic that is (too)close to me. So I fought myself about it; because as dear as it is to me, it also almost destroyed me.
I also battled with the idea of talking about it because I’ve seen the news headlines endlessly reporting about children and teens being bullied.
Bullying. As common (sadly) as the sun rising each morning. At the playground, in the school hallways, in the workplace. I’ve experienced it in (what I felt was) some unlikely places and can safely say that although the experience was soul-crushing, embarrassing and hurtful, all of it has strengthened me. No, no, it didn’t happen right away, in fact it took me years to find the good in those moments. I know what you’re thinking: “Seriously? What good?” I hope my video explains:
According to The Cyberbullying Research Center, “over 80% of teens use their phones regularly, making it the most popular form of technology and a common medium for cyber bullying” and “Mean, hurtful comments and spreading rumors are the most common type of cyber bullying.”
While in my day, bullies didn’t have the convenience of hiding behind a computer or iPhone screen to do their dirty work, being bullied was just as harmful because it often took the form of physical fights, and rumors spread.
The detrimental actions of the girls I faced everyday at school. The crushing words of the faceless behind a computer screen and ‘@username’. Different spark, same burning, painful flames that grow.
Hopefully, my video will help at least one person to, piece by piece, build the armor needed to live a beautiful life free of the crippling effects that bullying can have.
Drop me a line below and share what your experiences with have bullying taught you, and feel free to share this with a sister, cousin or friend that may need it.